We have all come across a million articles and listicles on
the internet – what is wrong with modern day dating, how romance has been lost
in this century, lust over love. And let’s be honest – there is more than a semblance
of the truth to these. But why? Why has traditional love and
fairytale romance morphed into one night stands and no-strings-attached
relationships as the conventional if not ideal lifestyle?
Pardon me but I am going to say the most abused phrase of this
generation, which is also the biggest truth – our lives are fast paced. When they say this world is
a competitive jungle, they aren’t talking about the job markets alone. Like
everything else in this age, our relationships are about convenience too. I
mean, what else was a life ruled by technology and invention going to lead us
to anyway.
Let Hollywood bear witness to what I am saying here. Before
there were movies like ‘Pretty woman’ and ‘Notting hill’ in which love came out
of the most unlikely of encounters. (Ok. I know these are classics and almost exceptions
among examples, but you get my point!) Now we have ‘Friends with benefits’ and ‘No strings attached’. Both of them have the clichéd happy endings too,
but see the route the plot takes?
To say that the world, especially the newer generation, is
seeing a revolution would be an understatement! We no longer care for the importance
traditional ways of life placed on the balance between education, work,
marriage, family and eventually retirement. New age philosophy is understanding
that one cannot have it all and will have to choose those aspects most
important to them. Our lives are simply not as simple as they were in older times. Temptation
is everywhere, and it is okay to err!
Hey, I’m not complaining! I’d rather each person live his or
her life their way, on their own terms, than having to succumb to what society
says is right or wrong. And I am as much a culprit by having contributed to (or
at least partaking in) the turn modern day romance has taken! To be honest, I
would have it no other way.
But are society and modern lifestyle the only factors to the
choices we are making in our love lives? What about what love does to us at a
personal level? And if it was always so hard to love, why are we more afraid
today? Or have we just learnt not to be happy with what we have, so much so we
have trouble settling?
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